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Aristotle once said "Anyone can become angry that is easy, but to be angry with the right person, the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose and in the right way, this is not easy." The quotation is very relevant in the context of emotional intelligence which ultimately affects our career and the day to day life since anger is the most common and highly affecting emotion any one's life. Lot of people have been unsuccessful, as they term, in their career and life just because of not being able to handle emotions, mostly anger, despite good knowledge and skill of work and profession. There have been many researches which show that people spend substantial amount of time in getting anger and managing or mitigating the consequences arising out of it.

We tend to grade people as successful and unsuccessful. No doubt, it is a relative and comparative matter. Like a big house has so many rooms inside, we also have so many aspects of our life i.e. personal and family life, social life, professional/work life, educational life, spiritual life and so on. Whatever may be the area of life there has always been two factors playing role in success or failure. They are intellectual intelligence and emotional intelligence. There is functional intelligence too, but I believe it’s a merge of intellectual and emotional intelligence. Ironically intellectual intelligence can be compared with hammer whereas emotional intelligence can be compared with a perfect hand that can rightly use the hammer to the target. If a hand has no proper control hammer can not work or perform well. If a person is weak in emotional intelligence, however intellectual a person may be she/he cannot really perform well in any area of life. The whole self is a combination of head, heart and guts that work in combination and as complimentary. We perform in group or team in our career. While interacting with the team members we need to manage and balance between the three terms head, heart and guts with a due self awareness in the moment of interpersonal interactions. The balance is maintained with emotion feeding and informing the operation of rational mind and the rational mind refining and sometimes vetoing the inputs of the emotions. Due balance is always preferred and is to be maintained.

Intellectual intelligence, usually called as rational intelligence, is basically a skill to perform some tasks. The task may be a constructive or sometimes even destructive one. Such skills might have come from genetics formal or informal learning, socialization, practices etc. Kids tend to learn from their parents when they are toddler, when they grow they learn from their school teachers, universities, society, books, media and so on. As an initiation, learning can be started by way of creating interest over a subject. Some people are born talent in some particular area. It is advisable to do skill and aptitude test before entering in to any area of career for better success. It has to be done within the certain age, otherwise will not have much benefit. Intellectual intelligence, generally called as intellectual quotient, is the level of a person to perform a particular task. Everyone can not be equally good at everything. It shows that people do have two kinds IQs one micro (related to a particular job) and another macro (average of all the jobs and it's performance). Generally, people expect a certain level of maturity, knowledge and performance according to one's age. Here, it would be relevant to quote Mr. Robert kiyosaki's definition of IQ which is calculated by dividing a person's performance age by her/his actual age. If a person is 30 years of age but can perform like a person of 45years of age then her/his IQ is 1.5 (i.e. 45 divided by 30). IQ more than 1 is good, equal to 1 is ok and less than 1 is poor. It has been that 20% of one's success depends up on IQ factors and the rest 80% on non-IQ factors. The majority of that 80% is related to Emotional Intelligence.
Like intellectual intelligence is a skill, emotional intelligence is ability. It is an array of emotional, personal and social ability. It has a great influence in one's ability to cope effectively with environment, demands and needs. Those who have good emotional intelligence can use power of emotion as a source of information, motivation, energy, trust, creativity and connection. Like a person may have negative (destructive) and positive constructive skills they may (in fact they do) have both negative and positive emotional intelligence. Negative and positive emotions are generally opposite in nature and sometimes there is a dividing line where one type easily changes to another. One's attempt or intention to include is positive emotion where as exclude is negative emotion. Some examples of positive emotion are interest, enthusiasm, laughter, empathy, action, curiosity etc. where grief, fear, hatred, shame, blame, regret, resentment, anger, hostility, apathy etc are examples of negative emotions. Literal definition and classification as negative or positive is not always possible and practical. Some expressions look like negative but they in fact are positive and vice versa. For example anger, in general, is a negative emotion but when it is shown as an expression of involvement and care it becomes a positive emotion. Positive and negative emotions live together with a person which are integrated and have to be dealt together.
Be it a negative or positive emotion, we need to manage them on time so as to achieve well in career. People with higher level of emotional intelligence, generally, are more successful than those with lower level of emotional intelligence. Those who can manage emotions are called as emotionally intelligent person. For example, if a person has hidden grief or fear which might get triggered any time under a fertile situation can still manage and control the effect of it. We call it emotional intelligence. In the recent years, emotional intelligence is considered as a key factor contributing to professional or career success in today's high stress environment. It includes recognizing, understanding and managing emotions while dealing with situations and people. There are three dimensions like emotional sensitivity, emotional maturity and emotional competency which motivate to maximize productivity, manage change and resolve problems. All these things have great role to play in one's career success. In career, everyone works with people, be it a senior, colleague or junior or inline or as a staff or a project member or a client or a supplier of goods and services. Likewise, we also have to deal with situation and also use devices and equipments including information and telecommunication. When they do not fully support as required by us we tend to get upset. If we can learn to soothe onset when upset, it pays a lot in career developments. Emotional intelligence is a life long matter which needs continuous development. If weakened or damaged it can again be reeducated and revived.